Future Father

I want to find a husband that will be involved in my children lives. I want my husband to be there for our children when they come into this world. I will help my husband be involved in the birth so he can bond with our children from the beginning. I hope my husband will want to help when our children are ill. It meant a lot to me when my father stayed with me in the hospital, and I hope that if given a similar situation that my husband would do the same for his children. I will let my husband have one on one time with each of our children. I will encourage my children to be excited when he returns home from work or a business trip.  I want my children to know that they can always go to their father. I will allow and want my children to talk and to listen to their father’s advice. I will want my husband to take time out of his busy life to find activities that he can share with them. 

I am dating and considering someone to share my life with, I can pay attention to see if he is comfortable with children. Something that I can do to find out how he will react to children is to spend time with him around young children. I have a lot of younger cousins and it would be fun to babysit them with my future spouse. Before we are married I would ask and discuss with him his anticipated involvement with our children. I hope that by doing some of these things before we are married we will better understand each other’s feelings about children and the relationship we want to have with them.