Hang out is not Dating!

Dating?? ? Most young adults are not dating. We are hanging out. Dating is dead! Most young people are just hanging out with the opposite sex. We are not asking each other out on dates to spend one on one with someone. We are not taking the time get to know each other on a personal level. We are hanging out in large groups of boys and girls. Many young people are also jumping into the physical parts of the relationship and skipping over many steps to dating.

Just because a boy takes you out doesn't mean that you are dating them or that you are going to marry them. Dating is a way to get to know each other Dating should be spending time to get know a particular person. Dating lots of different people allows you to know what type of person you like or what you want in a spouse. We need to take the time to get to know each other before we just jump into a relationship. There needs to be trust in a relationship, trust is earned by spending time with that person and getting to know them. Once we start a physical relationship we are putting a lot of trust into that person. A physical relationship to boys is not that big of a deal but to a girl it is everything. Once we start that connection with someone there no going back to just being friends.

Let's think before we act on the feelings we are feeling for the opposite sex. Let's think about the feelings that the other person could be having for you. Let's take a step back and look at the relationship. Let's shut off the Netflix and Video games and ask each other on dates. Let's put away our phones when we are on dates. Let’s try talking to the person we are with so we can get to know each other. 

Pornography

For my generation I know that pornography is a big struggle for many. Pornography can pop up on our screens even without us looking for it. Pornography is not just a problem for MEN/BOYS it also has become a problem for WOMEN/GIRLS. Men are more likely to look at pictures or videos. Women are more likely to read about pornography in books. No matter how pornography is viewed it is wrong for both men and women.

When someone is married and they are looking at porn it takes away from their sex life with their partner. After they view porn they start to think about pornography more often. This could lead them away from the intimacy they would be having with their partner. Their partner may not be able to give them the same feelings that they got by reading or looking at porn. 

The way that we can avoid porn is by closing the book and reading something else, or shutting off the screen that came up with pornography on it. 

Delaying Marriage

Why are people delaying marriage? For women it could because they don't want to commit to a relationship. That they want a career instead of a family. Or that no one will commit to them. No girl wants to be alone forever. Girls need to be willing to commit to the right kind of men. For men it could because they want to keep living a bachelor like life style. They don't want to shut off the video games or the sport channel, or it could be because they have the career they want to worry more about then a family or a marriage. They could also be saying that they don't have time to commit to a serious relationship so they just mess around with noncommittal relationships.  It takes a man ready and mature enough to get a commit to girl to them. The more that they delay marriage the more they can effect their future family. It's a lot easier on women to have children when they are in there 20's. In their life, if they delay marriage, then can only have one to two children. I feel that one of our goals should be getting married and having child. That is the greatest blessing that we can have in life.

Family

Family is the center of our world. When we are born we know what love is and what it's like to love someone. Some of us are not close to our families but we know that deep down that we are loved by them.

Being a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints I was born into a family with loving parent and grandparents. I know that when I came into this world that I was love by many. As the years went on that my brothers came into the world. My love for my family grew. Family is the one things that I can't live without. There may be days that I don't get a long with my brothers but at the end of the day I still love them. The family has taught me so many lessons. It taught me to be patience with people. I had to have patience with my brother Greg in the morning we would be yelling at each other on what time we were leaving for school. I was the one that had to be on time to everything and him, he could leave at the time that we need to be there. My mom taught me how to clean and cook and make sure that I had a clean room, and putting things away when I'm done using it. She helped me see things around the house that needed to be done and taught me to clean them without being ask to. The greatest thing that my mom taught me was how to one day be a mother. I'm so thankful that my parents got married in the temple for all time eternity. I get to live this life and the after life with this crazy family;

"Ohana means family, family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten"

I really didn't understand what family really meant till I left home and moved to college. Even though I have moved out of the house I'm still there. I still have my room and my spot at the table. Just the only thing is that I just don't live there. We can't live without our families. What does family mean to you?